The Mind Behind Love

"Why am I always the one who has to be the bigger person?"You're the one who thinks before reacting. You initiate the hard conversations. You apologize first. You regulate your emotions — not just for your sake, but for the relationship. And slowly, that maturity starts to feel less like a strength… and more like a weight.Being emotionally mature doesn’t mean you should always be the emotional c..

Why does choosing yourself feel like betrayal?You say no to something you don’t want. You take a day off. You set a boundary. And suddenly, guilt floods in. Not because you did something wrong — but because you finally did something for yourself.This guilt is not a sign that you’re selfish — it’s a sign you were trained to self-abandon.If your worth was tied to being “good,” “helpful,” or “selfl..

"Everything is fine… so why do I feel like something is wrong?"You’re dating someone who communicates well. They’re kind, consistent, and emotionally available. There’s no drama, no mind games. And yet, inside your chest — a flutter of anxiety. You’re waiting for the other shoe to drop. You wonder if you’re losing interest. Or if it’s "too good to be true."This is called safety anxiety — the dis..