The Mind Behind Love

Not everyone who says “I love you” is really saying “I see you.”There’s a confusing dynamic in modern relationships: You meet someone who showers you with attention, praises you, and seems totally into you. But over time, something feels off. You give more and feel less seen. You start to wonder: Do they love me… or just love being loved?What Does “Loving to Be Loved” Look Like?It’s about valida..

Sometimes, the strongest walls are built by the most wounded hearts.You may have met people who proudly declare, "I don’t need anyone." They appear fiercely independent, seemingly untouched by emotional attachment. But beneath that surface often lies a different truth—a hidden fear of emotional dependence and deep-rooted loneliness. What Causes This Emotional Distance?Past betrayals: Childhood n..

Love should be warm and safe, but for some, it feels like walking into a fire.Have you ever loved someone deeply—only to watch them pull away just when things got serious? This emotional pattern, often called "love avoidance," is more common than we think. And it usually hides a history of emotional pain, attachment anxiety, or deep-rooted self-doubt.Why Love Feels Dangerous to SomeFear of rejec..

"Everything is fine… so why do I feel like something is wrong?"You’re dating someone who communicates well. They’re kind, consistent, and emotionally available. There’s no drama, no mind games. And yet, inside your chest — a flutter of anxiety. You’re waiting for the other shoe to drop. You wonder if you’re losing interest. Or if it’s "too good to be true."This is called safety anxiety — the dis..

Why Emotionally Unavailable People Push Love Away (Emotional Healing Series #4)Love is what we all crave — connection, intimacy, and emotional safety. Yet ironically, some of us run from love the moment it gets too close. We ghost, we self-sabotage, we pull away. Why? This is the paradox of the emotionally unavailable person: they want love deeply, but fear it even more.In this post, Dr. Paul Le..

Why Saying “I Love You” Is So Hard: The Psychology of Emotional Vulnerability“I love you.” Three simple words, yet for many, they feel heavier than a thousand. Why do some people hesitate, avoid, or even fear saying them? Is it a fear of rejection, a lack of love, or something deeper rooted in the psychology of emotional vulnerability?In this post, Dr. Paul Lee explores the psychological barrier..