The Mind Behind Love

We don’t fall for what’s good for us—we fall for what feels like home. And sometimes, home was chaos.Have you ever felt instantly connected to someone—like you’ve known them forever? That sense of “familiarity” can feel romantic, even magical. But often, it’s not magic. It’s your nervous system recognizing an emotional pattern from the past. And that pattern isn’t always healthy.Why Familiarity ..

"Everything is fine… so why do I feel like something is wrong?"You’re dating someone who communicates well. They’re kind, consistent, and emotionally available. There’s no drama, no mind games. And yet, inside your chest — a flutter of anxiety. You’re waiting for the other shoe to drop. You wonder if you’re losing interest. Or if it’s "too good to be true."This is called safety anxiety — the dis..

Why do we keep ending up in relationships that hurt?You meet someone kind. They communicate well. They respect your boundaries. And yet... something inside you feels off. Maybe even bored. Meanwhile, the moment someone inconsistent or emotionally distant shows up, your heart races. You feel "chemistry." You feel "pulled."This isn’t love. It’s recognition. You're not drawn to them because they’re..

Love Psychology Series – Episode 9: Why We Fall for People Who Can’t Love Us BackYou give. You try. You wait. And still, they pull away. You’re left wondering why you keep falling for people who don’t—or won’t—love you back.This post by Dr. Paul Lee explores why we’re drawn to emotionally unavailable people, what it says about our own attachment patterns, and how to begin choosing the love we ac..

Love Psychology Series – Episode 8: Why We Feel Addicted to the Wrong PersonYou know they’re not good for you. They make you anxious, confused, even hurt— but you still wait for their message. You still hope. You still stay.It doesn’t feel like a relationship. It feels like a craving. In this post, Dr. Paul Lee breaks down why we can feel emotionally addicted to someone who’s not right for us, a..

Love Psychology Series – Episode 7: Why We Chase Love That Hurts UsYou know it isn’t good for you. They pull away, disrespect you, or leave you feeling empty. And yet, you can’t stop going back. You call it love—but it feels more like pain.In this post, Dr. Paul Lee explores why we sometimes become addicted to the very relationships that wound us, what psychological patterns keep us stuck, and h..

Loving Someone Who’s Not Ready to Love You Back (Emotional Healing Series #6)Sometimes, love feels more like waiting than sharing. You open your heart, offer your time, your care, your presence— and yet, the person you love doesn’t meet you halfway.Loving someone who isn’t ready to love you back can be heartbreaking, confusing, and deeply exhausting. But it’s also an experience many of us go thr..

Why Do We Fall for People Who Hurt Us? (Emotional Healing Series #5)Have you ever found yourself drawn to someone who made you feel anxious, unworthy, or emotionally drained—yet, you couldn’t walk away? Why do we fall for people who hurt us, over and over again? The answer lies deeper than personal weakness—it’s wired into our emotional history.In this post, Dr. Paul Lee uncovers the hidden psyc..

Why We Mistake Obsession for Love (Love Psychology Series #4)You check your phone constantly. You replay every conversation. You feel high when they text back and low when they don't. You say it's love—but what if it's not?Obsession can feel like love. It's intense, all-consuming, and emotionally charged. But it's not the same as genuine connection. In this post, Dr. Paul Lee explores why we oft..

Why We Attract People Who Trigger Our Deepest Wounds (Love Psychology Series #3)It’s a cruel irony of love: the people we feel most drawn to are often the ones who bring up the pain we’ve tried hardest to forget. They push our buttons, reopen old wounds, and awaken fears we thought we’d buried. But instead of running, we lean in. We feel “chemistry.” We think, “This must be love.”In this post, D..