The Mind Behind Love

They weren’t consistent, kind, or ready—but you kept hoping they’d become all three.There’s a romantic trap many people fall into: We meet someone who isn’t quite right—but something about them sparks hope. So we stay, invest, and wait. Not for who they are now, but for who they might become. This is what it looks like to fall for potential instead of reality.Why We Romanticize PotentialWe see t..

Why do we keep ending up in relationships that hurt?You meet someone kind. They communicate well. They respect your boundaries. And yet... something inside you feels off. Maybe even bored. Meanwhile, the moment someone inconsistent or emotionally distant shows up, your heart races. You feel "chemistry." You feel "pulled."This isn’t love. It’s recognition. You're not drawn to them because they’re..

Do you feel worthy only when you're useful to others?Many people confuse being needed with being loved. On the surface, it may look like compassion or selflessness — always helping, fixing, supporting. But deep down, it’s often rooted in a dangerous belief: “If I’m not needed, I’m not enough.”This pattern usually forms in childhood, especially in environments where love was conditional. If you h..

Why You Keep Falling for Emotionally Unavailable People (Love Psychology Series #6)They’re hot and cold. They open up just enough to keep you hooked—but never enough to feel safe. You try harder. You overthink. You hope they’ll change. And you wonder: “Why do I keep falling for people who don’t show up emotionally?”In this post, Dr. Paul Lee explores the deeper psychological reasons why we are d..

Why Emotionally Unavailable People Push Love Away (Emotional Healing Series #4)Love is what we all crave — connection, intimacy, and emotional safety. Yet ironically, some of us run from love the moment it gets too close. We ghost, we self-sabotage, we pull away. Why? This is the paradox of the emotionally unavailable person: they want love deeply, but fear it even more.In this post, Dr. Paul Le..

Why You Keep Accepting Less Than You Deserve (Self-Worth & Attachment Series #2)Have you ever stayed in a relationship that left you feeling small, unseen, or emotionally drained—yet you couldn’t walk away? You tell yourself, “Maybe this is just how love is,” or “At least I’m not alone.” But deep down, you know something doesn’t feel right. So why do we keep accepting love that falls short of wh..

Why We Chase People Who Don’t Want Us (Love Psychology Series #2)It’s one of the most painful patterns in love: we give our heart to people who don’t seem to want it. We chase after those who pull away, remain emotionally unavailable, or give us just enough to keep us hoping—but never enough to feel secure.Why do we do this? Are we broken? Addicted to pain? Or is something deeper at play—somethi..

How Childhood Wounds Shape Adult Attraction (Love Psychology Series #1)Have you ever wondered why you’re drawn to people who are emotionally unavailable, unpredictable, or even distant? Often, what we call “our type” isn’t about preference—it’s about programming. Much of our adult attraction is silently shaped by the emotional blueprint we developed in childhood.In this post, Dr. Paul Lee explor..