The Mind Behind Love

It’s not love if your nervous system is always in overdrive. That’s anxiety—and it’s asking for safety, not romance.Many people confuse anxiety for chemistry. The butterflies. The obsession. The constant waiting. It feels exciting—until it feels exhausting. Anxious love keeps you chasing clarity that never comes. You’re not building connection; you’re fighting for reassurance.Why Anxious Love Fe..

Not everyone who says “I love you” is really saying “I see you.”There’s a confusing dynamic in modern relationships: You meet someone who showers you with attention, praises you, and seems totally into you. But over time, something feels off. You give more and feel less seen. You start to wonder: Do they love me… or just love being loved?What Does “Loving to Be Loved” Look Like?It’s about valida..

Love Psychology Series – Episode 7: Why We Chase Love That Hurts UsYou know it isn’t good for you. They pull away, disrespect you, or leave you feeling empty. And yet, you can’t stop going back. You call it love—but it feels more like pain.In this post, Dr. Paul Lee explores why we sometimes become addicted to the very relationships that wound us, what psychological patterns keep us stuck, and h..

Why You Keep Falling for Emotionally Unavailable People (Love Psychology Series #6)They’re hot and cold. They open up just enough to keep you hooked—but never enough to feel safe. You try harder. You overthink. You hope they’ll change. And you wonder: “Why do I keep falling for people who don’t show up emotionally?”In this post, Dr. Paul Lee explores the deeper psychological reasons why we are d..

Why We Mistake Obsession for Love (Love Psychology Series #4)You check your phone constantly. You replay every conversation. You feel high when they text back and low when they don't. You say it's love—but what if it's not?Obsession can feel like love. It's intense, all-consuming, and emotionally charged. But it's not the same as genuine connection. In this post, Dr. Paul Lee explores why we oft..