The Mind Behind Love

"You're so strong — I don’t know how you do it."It’s a compliment, right? Strength is admirable. It’s the trait people praise when they see you carrying burdens with a steady face, offering support to others even when your own heart feels heavy.But what if that strength is a mask?Many who are seen as “the strong one” didn’t choose the role — it was given to them by necessity. Maybe you grew up i..

Do you feel worthy only when you're useful to others?Many people confuse being needed with being loved. On the surface, it may look like compassion or selflessness — always helping, fixing, supporting. But deep down, it’s often rooted in a dangerous belief: “If I’m not needed, I’m not enough.”This pattern usually forms in childhood, especially in environments where love was conditional. If you h..

Love Psychology Series – Episode 9: Why We Fall for People Who Can’t Love Us BackYou give. You try. You wait. And still, they pull away. You’re left wondering why you keep falling for people who don’t—or won’t—love you back.This post by Dr. Paul Lee explores why we’re drawn to emotionally unavailable people, what it says about our own attachment patterns, and how to begin choosing the love we ac..