Self-Worth & Attachment Episode 14: You’re Not Too Much—They Just Weren’t Ready for Your Depth

ou’re Not Too Much—They Just Weren’t Ready for Your Depth

They said you were too intense, too emotional, too complicated. But what if you were simply too real for someone not ready to feel deeply?

In a world that rewards emotional detachment and minimalism in relationships, those who love deeply and express freely are often labeled as “too much.” This label can be painful, especially when it’s internalized as a reflection of worth. But the truth is, your emotional depth isn’t a flaw—it’s a gift.

Why Emotional Depth Feels “Too Much” to Some

• It mirrors their unprocessed pain: People who avoid emotions may feel overwhelmed when confronted with authentic vulnerability.
• It threatens emotional control: Being close to someone deeply attuned can force others to confront feelings they’ve buried.
• It challenges superficial love: True connection requires more than charm—it demands presence, honesty, and courage.

How This Impacts Your Self-Worth

If you’ve been called needy or dramatic for expressing your feelings, you might begin to believe your emotions are burdensome. But suppressing your depth for the sake of “being easy to love” only leads to resentment and loss of self.

Embracing Your Emotional Intensity

Healing begins when you stop apologizing for your emotional truth. Start reminding yourself:

• I am not too much—I am simply emotionally alive.
• People who love me will not be afraid of my feelings.
• My depth deserves to be met, not managed.

Books That Help You Go Deeper

1. Untamed by Glennon Doyle – Embracing your authentic, untamed self without shame.
2. Emotionally Intense Highly Sensitive People by Imi Lo – Understanding emotional sensitivity as strength.
3. The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine N. Aron – A foundational guide to emotional richness.