The Mind Behind Love

"Why am I always the one who has to be the bigger person?"You're the one who thinks before reacting. You initiate the hard conversations. You apologize first. You regulate your emotions — not just for your sake, but for the relationship. And slowly, that maturity starts to feel less like a strength… and more like a weight.Being emotionally mature doesn’t mean you should always be the emotional c..

Why does choosing yourself feel like betrayal?You say no to something you don’t want. You take a day off. You set a boundary. And suddenly, guilt floods in. Not because you did something wrong — but because you finally did something for yourself.This guilt is not a sign that you’re selfish — it’s a sign you were trained to self-abandon.If your worth was tied to being “good,” “helpful,” or “selfl..

Do you feel worthy only when you're useful to others?Many people confuse being needed with being loved. On the surface, it may look like compassion or selflessness — always helping, fixing, supporting. But deep down, it’s often rooted in a dangerous belief: “If I’m not needed, I’m not enough.”This pattern usually forms in childhood, especially in environments where love was conditional. If you h..